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Don’t ruin your beautiful life April 10th, 2014

Vinod Kumar

Worrying is like a rocking chair, it gives you something to do, but it gets you nowhere – Glenn Turner

I always say, life is full of surprises and everything happens for a reason. There is so much we learn from each other that the experience we get must be for a lifetime. If we don’t run behind our dreams we are never going to get it. If we don’t ask the right questions, we will always be presented with wrong answers. You will eventually be run over even if you are sitting idle on the right path. Understanding life’s choices is a critical activity, for a fact, life is just a choice we make – Period.

Here are some of the choices I wish we never make these mistakes in our lifetime:

  • Thinking about the past and worrying.
  • Fearing change and resisting it.
  • Dream big and not take any positive step towards it.
  • Taking everything personally and seriously.
  • Put needs of your loved ones in the back burner.

Today is the tomorrow we worried about yesterday.

  • Making others feel bad about themselves.
  • Not speaking out what is in your mind.
  • Thinking about lost opportunities and whining.
  • Trying to do everything at once. If everything is important, then nothing is.
  • Trusting no one.

If you want to test your memory, try to recall what you were worrying about one year ago today. ~E. Joseph Cossman

  • Shy to ask for help.
  • Failing to learn from mistakes.
  • Blaming others and not taking ownership.
  • Question your own abilities and being with people who pull you down always.
  • Never explored new ways of doing things and doing the same thing expecting different results.

Worry is a misuse of imagination. ~Dan Zadra

  • Not being true to yourself.
  • Being jealous of people around you.
  • Making small issues a bigger problem to solve.
  • Keep complaining of problems and not taking actions.
  • Running behind money and forgetting the inner passion you once had.

Worry never robs tomorrow of its sorrow, it only saps today of its joy. ~Leo Buscaglia

I personally think there is lots more to write on things I wish we dont do in our lifetime. Do let me know if these resonate a bell in your mind and have you experienced these in your lifetime?

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6 life lessons my daughter taught me March 13th, 2014

Vinod Kumar

Becoming a parent has its own fun times and sometimes filled with surprises. Even after a tired sleepless exhausted night, the morning just brightens up when I see my daughter give me a big wide smile and I just get rejuvenated. No complaints after that and I am all energetic to face the day chores. This parenthood experience is for sure teaching me life lessons every single day as I point out over my FB every other day. One of the comments from a friend was to document my lessons and the learning’s in my own words over blog. So here is the first shot of my ~6 months experience that my daughter has taught me about life. This is just the beginning and I am sure the lessons will keep coming almost every 6 months or 1 year with new dimensions added.

I am just penning down what hit me first and how I want to reinvent myself with this parenthood experience:

1. Take your day as it comes

This was the first comment I made over FB, the days, hours, minutes and seconds are not under our control. My couple of weeks of paternal vacation was completely adhoc, unplanned and not under my control. You take the minute as it comes and there is no set flow. After couple of days, it was to accept defeat and move on – period !!!

2. Enjoy with what you have

This is a life lesson that hit me hard. It is the fundamental difference between need and want. We might want a thousand things in life but we need just a few of them to lead a happy prosperous life. My daughters happiness seems to come from simple daily objects that she plays with. Nothing whimsical or fancy requirements – I just seem to love this attitude.

3. Can I do it my way

Well, with your kid you really know. You may try as hard as you can but she wants to do it her own way. You cannot talk to them, teach them etc but kids have their own way to explore and want to learn in that process. They are unbiased in their approach in exploring life in their own terms.

PS: This is true to the point we spoil them with our selfish materialistic motives :) … Following video is just for some fun !!!

4. Can I have it

This is a no brainer to all. It is in continuation to the previous point and simple by all means. If they want to sleep (no matter what time of the day) – they need to get it. So it is with food, playing, taking them for a walk – you name it, most of the times they get it their way.

5. Unconditional Love

I am so curious to see the way my daughter befriends with anyone in a matter of 5 minutes. She is all smiles and is actively engaged in talking. The bonding is without any judgments or prejudice or age or gender etc. Sometimes it a great learning to take people at their face value rather than their looks, occupation, gender or anything else. We need to de-clutter our minds sometimes.

6. Full of curiosity

I think this is second nature to all kids. The need to become a child when it comes to new things that is thrown at us. Sometimes we are locked down with our baggage and become blind to things that happen around us / industry. This is something I want to seriously change within myself as I learn it the nice way from my daughter.

This is the initial dump of what I wanted to share as learning. Kids are fun and their inquisitiveness sometimes can stump any adult. The thought process is simple, unassuming, eager and most importantly they are looking for answers one way or the other. There is lots as adults we can learn from them as much as we try to teach them. Do let me know if you have got this Aaahaa moments like me.

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Traits Children teach us daily January 28th, 2014

Vinod Kumar

Parenting is such a wonderful feeling. I seldom talk about personal conversations over this blog but this time I was tempted in writing about this very topic as it is close to my heart these days :). Watching kids live their openly instinctive life, I am tempted to learn so much from them. Kids are a bundle of energy, they are super excited about everything around them, eager to learn and curious about everything in front of them. There are tons of life lessons we can learn from kid’s behavior, we just sometimes fail to recognize. Kids attitude is about leading a healthy, lively, happy and productive life. Kids have a different way to handle themselves when compared to adults. So let me put some of the thoughts here. Think like a kid, enjoy even when you are an adult.

Top 15 traits to watch

  1. Don’t plan a lot, live life spontaneously as it comes.
  2. Kids have a lot of fun in everything they do.
  3. Kids are eager to explore and test the waters they are not sure. If they fail, they dust off and take another stab till they succeed.
  4. Kids mind are a open blank book wanting to explore and enjoy everything the world has to offer.
  5. Mistakes are a great way to learn as experiences and a process of growth. Tell a kid not to touch a lit candle, its curiosity will force it in doing. Once they get hurt , they never touch after that. Experience is what we get when we don’t get what we wanted.
  6. Obstacles are always there, knowing to get around it is the key. There is nothing that can stop a kid from doing what it wants to get done.
  7. Being creative in your imagination. A kid can play with just a twig for hours together just with their imagination.
  8. Kids are instinctively learning from people around them. As we grow we miss this unique learning opportunity of observing others.
  9. Kids are constantly questioning their understanding with – What? How? Why? Who? Whom? etc. This is their inquisitiveness part to aid learning.
  10. Kids don’t hide anything and are honest to the core. They say as they see as the moments happen.
  11. Kids are explorers, they may ask for guidance but have their own way to do it themselves.
  12. Kids don’t wear a mask to their feelings. Their face reflects their current mood all time. As adults we always hide / conceal our expressions to be diplomatic.
  13. Start each day with full zeal and enthusiasm. Kids don’t snug away from exploring the wonderful day in front of them.
  14. Kids value the time with their friends and the relationship. They are always on their friends side and have no track of time and love to hang out with their friend forever.
  15. Kids are super optimistic and see possibilities in everything they do. As adults we need to think as – “what would you do if you knew you will never fail”?

I am sure you would have learnt many more from your kids. The life lessons our kids teach us are priceless, let us learn and make a better life. Let me know your thoughts too.

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Self-Reflection – Q&A Style January 22nd, 2014

Vinod Kumar

My past does not define me, it has enabled me to learn and grow into what I want to be tomorrow.

Many a times we get a chance to listen to advice from others whenever we get into a tight situation. This has worked for many and we are in constant quest to find answers and solutions to our problems. It is difficult to keep mind out of clutter and we exercise caution as it is our instinctive nature to protect. Walking life’s path is just like driving on Indian roads, it is filled with potholes and speed breakers. It takes a seasoned genuinely driver to make the ride comfortable and lesser bumpy. It is how we navigate past these hurdles and how we make the presence of a pothole less jerky for passengers sitting inside. The concepts I am alluding is around how we tackle, handle and make the impacts less painful. It is tough and this journey needs a lot of introspection from one and all. So let me throw some basic questions at you and let us collectively answer our own-self to these questions. You are more than welcome to tag this post with your answers (on your blog) if you plan to do it.

If you want more, you have to require more from yourself – Dr Phil

Self-Reflection 101

  1. How would you define yourself?
  2. In one word, how would you describe your personality?
  3. How would you define your your life’s motto?
  4. Do you have something that everyone adores?
  5. What do you think is not in your life today?
  6. What has been bothering you lately or what is keep your thoughts busy lately?
  7. How would you define Happiness? What is between you and happiness?
  8. Is the child inside you still alive? What is the child asking for?
  9. What are you scared of? Has the fear stopping you from doing something?
  10. What will you never give up on?
  11. what is the best / worst decision you have ever made till date?
  12. What and Who is the biggest motivator in your life right now?
  13. What should never be taken seriously according to you?
  14. What fascinates you and give you energy on the very thought?
  15. What will you never do in your life? And what is that thing you said will never do, but have been doing it since then?
  16. Did you discover anything new about yourself?
  17. What worries you most about the future? And looking back, what have you been missing the most?
  18. What is the common misconception folks have about understanding you?
  19. What are the beliefs that you hold which people disagree?
  20. What are the qualities you look for in your friend?
  21. What can bring an instant smile on your face now?
  22. In exactly an one year from now, how would you be different?
  23. Why / On what do you have a hard time saying “no” to?
  24. When does your inner voice say to move on on something?
  25. If you could live your life once again, what would you want to do one more time?
  26. As you become 60-years-old, what will matter to you the most?

Changing our bad habits starts with becoming aware of aspects of ourselves that we could improve on.

These are basic questions in my humble opinion and many cross my mind as I think about life and beyond. Do let me know how of these questions resonated with you? How many more would you add to this list?

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Winners always Win – Why? January 13th, 2014

Vinod Kumar

Winning is a human instinct, we all want to be winners. We all want to succeed. We all try to do so many things and in the process fall short of reaching our dreams. Why is this the reason? Why do we feel some people always win in their life? I personally feel it is a state of mind, it is how we think about success or winning, depends on how we focus on activities in hand. I love to appreciate life as it comes and living life in each moment as it arrives. It is sometimes not what a lot agree, but this is something I love to use as mantra. Let me take a shot on what winners are made up off and these are some thoughts:

  1. Winners don’t quit, it is not about failing once. Winners have the energy to get up and find ways to chase the dreams.
  2. Winners are curious and want to understand what they don’t understand.
  3. Winners earn their respect, they don’t seek to get it.
  4. Winners live in the today with their experience from past.
  5. Winners love the journey to finish line. They enjoy the complete process, not about just crossing the line.
  6. Winners face their fears and solve them.
  7. Winners look for solution to problems around them.
  8. Winners love constructive criticism, they don’t run away from feedbacks.
  9. Winners are not trying to boil the ocean, they love each small triumphs.
  10. Winners just don’t talk but communicate their dreams through their actions.
  11. Winners want to make a difference in whatever they do.
  12. Winners know to look beyond imperfections, break the mold and move on.
  13. Winners define their success, it is not defined by others.
  14. Winners are learners for a lifetime.
  15. Winners believe in themselves, they love to workhard to find themselves in a lucky spot to go the extra mile.

So this was my small shot at this topic. Do let me know if you have the winner inside you kicking? What is running in your mind – let me know.

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