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Let go and move forward November 5th, 2012

Vinod Kumar

Courage is the power to let go of the familiar – Raymond Lindquist

Life is about challenges, interesting twists and there is a strong hold we have to certain things. These holds can be because of 100 other reasons like our egos, emotions, love, passion, comfort etc. The list why we keep doing the way we do is numerous, but if we take a small step back and analyze within there are lots we can live without. In this blog post I am calling few of these from my experience that I feel we all need to let-go to move forward in life.

1. Past failures are not shame

A lot of us hold on to the failures of past – understand that the past is not predicting that your future will also be that way. If that is the case, then you have not learnt from the past failures or you are making the same conscious choice. Sometimes stop thinking about the past and think what you are doing right now and move forward.

2. Others don’t control your life

I did talk about this in my previous picture post around opinions. Stop letting the opinions of others decide what you do in your life today. What matters these days is what you feel about yourself that counts and not what others think of you. Understand that you have to do exactly what is best for you and your life not what is best for everyone else.

3. Stop procrastinating ON your goals

There is an old saying that the best time to plant a tree was 20 years back. If that is the case, the best time to live your dreams and pursue your goals is NOW. Stop procrastinating – period !!! There are two sides to the coin – accept what condition exists or take control with responsibility to change the situation in hand.

Letting go doesn’t mean giving up, but rather accepting that there are things that cannot be – Anon

4. Your right to be wrong 

You don’t get a chance to choose how you are going to die or when. You can only decide how you are going to live right now. So every day is a new chance to choose and that choice is yours. Worst-case, never give up your right to be wrong. The experience that you will get from these decisions will make you move forward in life and become a better person.

5. Running away is not solving 

This is one big suggestion I give to almost anyone who comes to me. Stop running away from your problems. Face the issues, fix the problems, forgive, appreciate and communicate with the people who deserve it. Walk the fears you have and become a wise person.

6. Make your decisions 

Stop making excuses, stand up and be ready to say – “Yes, I screwed up”. Most of the long term failures are made because of indecisions & excuses and not by the decisions made at that moment. Don’t try to paralyze yourself by over-analyzing – take a decision now and move forward. There are always times you can make appropriate course corrections if needed.

7. Appreciate your moments 

We all tend to be so much far sighted that we forget the moments that is in front of us. A classic example, we are running behind planning our children’s future and forgetting the need to appreciate your present moment when they are growing up, they started walking, they started bicycling, made their first drawing etc. Quite often we try to accomplish something big without realizing that the greatest part of life is made up of the little things.

Some think it’s holding on that makes one strong; sometimes it’s letting go – Sylvia Robinson

Thanks for reading this far. There are surely things you strongly believe we need to let-go and I am all ears to listen to your views.

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