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Cut the stress, enjoy your life November 30th, 2012

Vinod Kumar

After a long wait and multiple requests from my friends I thought of writing this topic. In these times of high expectations, we see people over commit and ultimately get into stressed mode. Let me tell you some of the ways you can control your stress levels and have fun in your life.

If you are an IT Professional, I have a big request to all. Never let your personal life’s stress affect your professional work. Most importantly, don’t let the stress of your professional world shadow the beautiful evening your family is waiting for. So controlling stress is an essential part I wish everyone masters in their life slowly but surely. Here are my top 7 ways to de-stress yourself from the distress. I surely looking to learn some tips from you too, so please do drop in your comments.

In most cases stress is the root cause of death; illnesses are just the wrap up – Yordan Yordanov

1. Don’t take it to heart

Most of the stress is caused by us taking things too personal. Either we get irritated over what others do to us or we get agitated over why we didn’t get that opportunity others have got. Sometimes we are crossed by our very own actions, so don’t think hard – go with the flow and enjoy what you do.

2. Be reasonable

It is sometimes worth to change your expectations and be more reasonable in what you can expect from others. If you expect *everyone* to be always nice to you, someday you will get disappointed. Understand, you are making a conscious choice of getting disappointed when you expect others to do something for you even when you know the likelihood of this is highly unlikely.

Stress: The confusion created when one’s mind overrides the body’s basic desire to choke the living daylights out of some jerk who desperately deserves it

3. Laugh out to your heart’s desire

Humor is the opposite of stress and you will always find that humor opens your mind. When you are stressed you are emotionally connected with the problem and you are holding it tight that it blinds you of any solution. When you laugh out the situation in hand, you are solving the problem with new open mind.

4. What you want is different from what you need

A lot of times we get stressed by comparing ourselves with someone who we really don’t want to be like. That want is one of the major reasons for getting our stress levels going high. Know what your responsibilities are, they will meet your own needs provided you do the right things. Being ambitious and not working towards it is the problem. This inner liberation can be such a revelation that it open’s the potential inside you. Don’t look for compliments, look for explanations.

Give your stress wings and let it fly away – Terri Guillemets

5. Assumptions are mother of all downfall

One thing I have learnt in MTC (@work) is not to assume anything. What BI means to me is totally different to what every customer thinks. In the same way, don’t assume to what others think of you or you think of them. Clarify, open up, speak up and don’t leave anything to chances. It is better to know you are wrong upfront rather than doing something based on that assumptions while permanently damaging the situation and getting heart burns for the efforts we put in.

6. Check your emotions in place

One of the things I tell my dear ones is – face your feelings. Running away from the problem never solves it. The problem most of us face is, we never open up to face our emotions even when we get home. Suppressing the feelings is like a time bomb ready to explode in the most inappropriate time. Know your steam valve to vent out the emotions from time to time so that you don’t have to take time off just to recover from something you never intended to do. This can be stress balls, punching bags, watching a movie – whatever works, do it :).

Releasing the pressure, it’s good for the teapot and the water. Try it sometime – Jeb Dickerson

7. Look within

We don’t control what others do and if we keep our cool, we exactly know how to avoid stressful conversations. It takes two to start any argument, if you are not the one who started it and if you refuse to end it, I think you are complicating the situation and getting stressed unnecessarily.

Sometimes the most important thing in a whole day is the rest we take between two deep breaths – Etty Hillesum

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