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Why do you settle for the Ordinary? June 21st, 2013

Vinod Kumar

It is second to human nature to sometimes accept the ordinary and move on with disgust. Why do we do that? Is there merit in what we do? Are we thinking balanced? Are we biased in our opinion? There are multiple schools of thought and I thought to bring some to discussion in this post. Do let me know if these arguments make sense and have you ever experienced any in your lifetime.

When you stop being nervous is when you should retire. I’m always a little nervous for anything I do because when complacency sets in, that’s when I feel it’s time to move on to something else – Chris Jericho

Work delusion

If you are working, there will always be times when each one of us go through this feeling. Now in this argument there is no correct or wrong approach. Let me walk through this.

Assume you work in a services company. After a successful submission of project to client, you are requested to join another team on a completely different technology than what you have been working. Your passion for the technology is so high that your heart starts to reject the very thought that you are switching the platform. There is nothing wrong in it and your mind is playing games if you reject then you will be in bench and if you accept you will be switching competencies.

Now think about the whole scenario from a different angle. If the organization is paying your monthly pay-cheques, then isn’t it our duty to accept what our organization throws at us (logically)? Isn’t it our obligation to work for organizations goals keeping our emotions out? If we have to work on our own terms, why are we working for an organization and not starting our own company to work in our own terms?

Do you see logic to where I am taking this argument? Don’t try to just disagree and commit as you accept the ordinary. Try to change something. Both arguments are correct in their own way.

The arrogance of success is to think that what we did yesterday is good enough for tomorrow ― William Pollard

In my opinion this is falling into the trap of accepting the ordinary or the Okay attitude.

What to do?

It is tough to push our limits from not accepting the ordinary. It took me quite some time to get to terms in understanding this behavior – be on the lookout for complacent attitude and that is your first signs of accepting the ordinary. This obviously is going to pose us some interesting challenges and we need to work our way out.

When we are no longer able to change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves – Victor Frankl

Ideally to achieve this, you need to be in the right frame of mind, with the right energy in your system while you enjoy each and every moment as they come at you. When you see life is just going Okay, there are a number of options:

1. Do something about it and Change it or

2. Improve your perspective to start enjoying what you are doing.

Understand, sitting around and complaining doesn’t change the perspective or the situation either. So they are the only two option you have. No doing anything is not going to get us anywhere. Look at things around you and take a strong stance of changing it or changing its perspective.

Just because everything is different doesn’t mean anything has changed – Irene Peter

Don’t be Complacent with:

  1. Your thoughts
  2. Your passion
  3. Your choices
  4. Your motivations
  5. Your Friendship
  6. Your Job
  7. Your health
  8. How you treat people and How you get treated
  9. How you want to spend your time now
  10. Your actions
  11. How you feel every single day
  12. Your decisions
  13. Your holidays and time with family
  14. Your relationships
  15. What you want to give others

This list can be endless. Don’t get complacent because you found enjoyment in other parts of your life. A negative attitude can rub into other activities that you do and can become detrimental to the task in hand. As I wrap up, accepting the ordinary is not good enough – go ahead and change something.

The man who never alters his opinion is like standing water, and breeds reptiles of the mind – William Blake

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