For every minute you are angry you lose sixty seconds of happiness ― Ralph Waldo Emerson
Happiness is a subjective topic and relative to individuals. Every time I meet someone, they want to improve happiness in their lives and they are completely confused. Happiness is a state of mind, it is how we perceive happiness to be. For me happiness is something you learn from inner contentment, learn from your childhood, learn from your schools hard times and assume from people around you via their inner wisdoms. As you define your inner happiness try to keep your mind open, raw, simple, insightful, directional and actionable.
In my opinion there is no point in keeping this thought abstract and elusive thing that it cannot be achieved. It should be something that is out there which we can achieve yet right now not part of our life’s journey today. We can work hard day-in-day-out but we might feel happiness as an evasive thing. It is critical for us to include happiness into our lives in what ever shape we deem as stress buster. As I said before, it is more of a state of mind.
Time you enjoy wasting is not wasted time.
Make life meaningful
Make everything that you do count. Don’t forget to give your best where you need to give your best. It is always about playing your strengths and making a world that you want to live in. Make meaning out of things that you do day-in-day-out.
Happiness is when what you think, what you say, and what you do are in harmony ― Mahatma Gandhi
Scale your Happiness
Virtually there is no scale to measure happiness. In continuation to last point, hold to your values that make you happy. The simplest way to increase your happiness levels is to gradually increase your reasons to be happy. One of the dangerous levels is to compare your happiness levels with others.
Happiness is not a “What if” analysis
Our happiness is a decision of the mind. Don’t keep doing things because it is expected of you, but do things because you want to do and it makes you happy.
Don’t put an yardstick of “What if” scenarios to get into a happy state. A typical example is, “I would be happy if I get <<>>”. Don’t make your state of happiness too materialistic. Happiness made with such ideas is like climbing a mountain. Finally after reaching the pinnacle, our eye looks at the next mountain. This is the constant vicious circle of death of running behind matter – not happiness.
Sanity and happiness are an impossible combination ― Mark Twain
Be your own director of life
If you need to take a picture, you need to point your camera in that direction. So if you need to happiness, you need to work in that direction. You need to be happy doing simple things. You need to find happiness from simple things (smile of your child, playing a game you loved for years, Eating food your grandmother etc).
Happiness is not something ready made. It comes from your own actions ― Dalai Lama
As I sign off, remember happiness is a personal thing and what happiness to you is not the way others see as happiness.
The happiest people don’t have the best of everything. They just make the best of everything.